Characters in the strengthening of the family
The family is a miniature of a nation. If a family is good, then the nation will be good also. Conversely, if the family is broken, then the nation will be damaged. According to an American Sosioliog, Robert Bierstedt, the family is a group of small or large last long in nature, consisting of a husband and wife, either with or without children, or a man / woman alone in the company of children.
William Damon, in his book "Greater Expectations" (1995), write sentences - beautiful sentence, that the seeds are sown moral sense at conception, and the roots are established at birth. Each baby into the world is ready to respond socially, and morally, to others. Every child has the capacity to acquire moral character. needed emotional response systems, starters cognitive awareness, and personal disposition that is there from the beginning. Although, unfortunately, not every child grow up to be responsible and caring, the potential for change is at the origin of each member of the family members.
No human society where some form of the family does not appear. Malinowski, Polish anthropologist, said the family is a peculiarity of a group consisting of mother, father and their descendants are found in all societies, savage, barbaric and uncivilized. Irrepressible sexual needs, the drive for reproduction and general economic needs has contributed to the generality of these characteristics.
Families form the emotional environment surrounding the training and education of children. This forms the personality and character mold members. Mothers and fathers play different roles in a child's development. The difference can be roughly summed up as follows; Mother is the protector and educator; dad is a life coach and counselor. Mother acts as a secure base where kids can rely on; they teach their children not to be afraid of the new environment. In addition, as mothers tend to spend more time engaged in low-intensity activities, such as reading and game-play, with their children, the children began to see the mother as a teacher.
The functioning of a family is able to create an integrated member of society and inculcate the culture into a new member of the community. It provides status is considered important as social class and ethnicity for new members. This has implications for social functions by reproducing the replacement of new members, to replace the missing members. Furthermore, the family provides the individual property rights and also capable of assignment and maintenance of order kinship. Family offers material and emotional security and providing care and support for individuals who need such care.
Parents who create a learning environment at home has a positive effect in the form of communication about academic aspects, assignments, and homework. They also understand that family values can be passed from one generation to the next. But the problem, how parents instill values and strength of character in children is often a mystery. Whether it is through discipline, to live the values of the parents themselves, treat the children with respect, or a combination of a lot of how to interact with children.
As children get older, they get more and more generally about the praise. Perhaps they received a trophy for being on the winning team. They may receive congratulatory comments on the value of a good or to participate in the performance or special event. In fact, many children praised for everything, in the mistaken belief it will boost their self-esteem.
Praise be meaningless to children unless they learn from it. Just as they learn from constructive feedback on the academic aspects, assignments, and homework, they learned of a compliment either if it can be communicated.
Parents have a great opportunity to help children identify and build the strength of their character by changing the way they give praise. It is not melazimkan that all public comments removed. Instead, each time more specific praise can be given, the more valuable it is for children. Giving praise more specific, it helps children learn to reinforce positive character. Likewise forms of communication award for whom the praise, not only for the character trait do.
It sounds easy enough. If we all work together, children will get physical, social, emotional, and ethical they met. Unfortunately this is not always the case. many families are broken apart. Some children live in a dangerous neighborhood. Some children come into this world with poor social support and raised by young mothers with little support or lack of emotional support or lack of financial support from the biological father of the child. Other parents have to work several jobs just to provide basic necessities for the family. Likewise, some children stay at home with a lot of financial benefits but do not have the emotional support. All of these children are at risk. Some of these children will find a way out of their illnesses.
As a shortcut, children - children who are socially diseased is maintained by adults who have little concern. These children need more support from the adults in their communities, both religious leaders, leaders of teachers, coaches, parent, community leaders in various social organizations and, perhaps most important is the teacher in student life that forged the relationship solid between the parents with children.
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